By
Kurai and Lena Chitima
People pack stadiums to enjoy
soccer because of well-defined boundaries for people present. Such is the
beauty of boundaries. The players on the field comply with certain rules. The spectators
on the terraces will not stampede from the terraces or suddenly raid the pitch.
The officials presiding over the match rely on certain boundaries for enforcing
order. Suspense and excitement grips the stadium as everyone discovers how
teams out play each other within boundaries of the game. Setting boundaries is
the next priority in any responsibility after setting objectives. Boundaries
mark the extent of rights and privileges. They mark the beginning and end of
something. They mark what is yours and what is not. What is right and what is
not? Before you embark on an assignment, you want its reference terms and
provisions. To cultivate a farm or embark on a building project, you want the
site plan. Imagine the bewildering
nature of a world without boundaries.
Non-existent or blurred boundaries lead to power conflict and chaos.
Setting and respecting boundaries
is also vital to lasting marriages[1].
Mutual trust and respect give meaning to boundaries. Marriage gives freedom and
privileges exclusive to the marriage relationship. If you wish your boundaries to be respected
you must respect those of others. Whenever you violate your boundaries, you
violate another person’s and put to risk what is within your boundary. Your
actions have consequences to you, to your spouse, children and the community.
Boundaries define limits of
freedom. In other words they give freedom. Respect of limits is the basis on which society functions normally. Even
God has limits, which He set for himself [2]
that help us to relate with him. For
example, we know he is light and love so we can be attracted to Him. The
ability to set and enforce one’s limits reflects the power one has. The more self-regulating you are the more
powerful. Spouses that exercise inner self restrain to stay faithful to each
other make powerful marriages. Once the marriage boundaries are set, protect
them and control what you let in to the marriage. Identity, values and purpose
determine moral boundaries. Who you are
determines what you do. When you are the righteousness of Christ[3]
certain things become unfitting.
How to keep fidelity
boundaries – LINK: http://personalmasterydm.blogspot.com/2012/10/keeping-fidelity-boundaries.html
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